How to Be a Gentleman: Respectful Tips for Dating an Escort in Paris

Paris isn’t just about croissants and the Eiffel Tower. It’s also a city where people meet for connection-sometimes paid, sometimes personal. If you’re considering dating an escort in Paris, the real question isn’t how to find one. It’s how to treat them like a human being.

Understand the Reality First

Escorts in Paris aren’t characters from a movie. They’re people-some working part-time to pay for school, others choosing this path because it offers flexibility, autonomy, or higher pay than traditional jobs. They’re not there to be your fantasy. They’re there to provide company, conversation, and sometimes intimacy. The moment you start treating them as a prop for your ego, you’ve already crossed a line.

There’s no official registry for escorts in Paris, but they often work through trusted agencies or private networks. Many have profiles on platforms like SeekingArrangement or local French forums. Don’t assume they’re desperate or invisible. They’re professionals who set boundaries-and most of them have learned to spot someone who doesn’t respect them from a mile away.

Respect Their Time Like a Business Meeting

If you’re going to book an escort, treat it like you’d treat any other professional appointment. Show up on time. Don’t text them at 3 a.m. asking to "just hang out." Don’t show up late because you got stuck in traffic. They have schedules. They have other clients. They have lives outside of this.

Parisian escorts often charge by the hour. Some offer half-day or full-day rates. The price is clear upfront. Don’t haggle. Don’t try to negotiate after the fact. If you think the rate is too high, don’t book them. That’s not being frugal-it’s being disrespectful. Their time is valuable. Your money is their livelihood. Don’t make them feel like they’re doing you a favor.

Don’t Bring Your Assumptions to the Table

You don’t know why they do this job. You don’t know their story. You don’t know if they’re studying law, supporting a sibling, or saving for a home. Assuming they’re "broken," "trapped," or "looking for love" is not just wrong-it’s offensive.

One escort in the 16th arrondissement told me, "I get asked if I’m running from my husband every single time." She wasn’t. She was a freelance graphic designer who loved the freedom. Another, working near Montmartre, said, "I get asked if I want to leave this life. I don’t. I’m good at it, and I make more than my ex-husband ever did."

Listen more than you speak. Ask open questions: "What do you like to do when you’re not working?" "What’s the best meal you’ve had in Paris?" Don’t interrogate. Don’t psychoanalyze. Don’t try to fix them. They didn’t ask for your salvation.

Dress Like You’re Meeting Someone You Actually Want to Impress

Parisians care about presentation. That applies to everyone-including escorts. If you show up in sweatpants and a wrinkled shirt, you’re signaling you don’t care. That’s not just rude-it’s predictable.

You don’t need a tailored suit, but you should look put together. Clean shoes. A neat haircut. No body odor. No cologne that smells like a nightclub from 2008. If you’re meeting in a café, dress like you’re meeting a friend’s parent. If it’s a hotel, dress like you’re going to a nice dinner. First impressions matter, especially when someone has seen hundreds of men.

Pay in Full, Upfront, and Without Drama

This is non-negotiable. If you agree on €200 for two hours, pay €200 before anything happens. No "I’ll pay you later," no "I’ll Venmo you after," no "I only have cash." If you can’t pay as agreed, don’t book them.

Some escorts prefer cash. Others use bank transfers or apps like Revolut. Ask ahead of time. Don’t make them ask for payment. Don’t make them feel like they’re begging. If they say they need payment before the meeting, respect that. It’s not a control tactic-it’s a safety measure.

And never, ever try to tip after. If the rate is clear, adding a tip without being asked can feel patronizing. If you want to show appreciation, say thank you. Or send a thoughtful message later-not cash.

Don’t Try to Turn It Into a Relationship

You’re not falling in love. They’re not falling for you. This isn’t a romantic comedy. If you start sending texts after the meeting-"I had such a great time," "Can we do this again?"-you’re crossing a boundary.

Most escorts have a strict policy: no contact after the session unless it’s to rebook. That’s not cold. That’s professional. If you want a relationship, go on dates with people who aren’t being paid to be with you. Don’t confuse transactional with emotional.

One escort in Le Marais said, "I’ve had men cry in my apartment. I’ve had men propose. I’ve had men show up with flowers two weeks later. I don’t hate them. I just don’t answer their messages."

Be Quiet About It

Don’t post about it on Instagram. Don’t brag to your friends. Don’t tell your coworkers. Don’t write a blog. This isn’t a trophy. It’s a private exchange between two consenting adults.

Paris is a small city. The escort world is even smaller. If you talk, your name will get around. Not because people are gossiping-but because they’re protecting each other. You’ll lose access to people who actually know how to treat this with dignity.

Know the Legal Ground

In France, selling sex isn’t illegal. Buying it is. That means escorts can work legally, but clients can be fined. Fines range from €1,500 to €3,000 for first-time offenders. Repeat offenses carry higher penalties.

That doesn’t mean you’ll get caught. But it does mean you’re taking a legal risk. If you’re a tourist, you’re more likely to be targeted by police sting operations near tourist zones like Champs-Élysées or Pigalle. Don’t assume you’re invisible. Don’t assume you’re safe. Be aware.

Leave With Grace

When the time is up, don’t linger. Don’t try to extend the session without paying extra. Don’t ask for one more kiss. Don’t say, "Just one more hour?"

Stand up. Thank them. Say goodbye. Leave. No dramatic exits. No tears. No promises. No "I’ll call you." If you want to see them again, book another appointment through the proper channel. Don’t make them feel guilty for doing their job.

The best clients aren’t the ones who spend the most. They’re the ones who leave quietly, with respect.

What If You Feel Something?

It’s normal. Humans connect. Even in transactional spaces. If you feel something-curiosity, attraction, even affection-that doesn’t make you a bad person. But it does mean you need to manage it.

Write it down. Talk to a therapist. Don’t try to force a relationship where none exists. Don’t romanticize their life. Don’t imagine a future you can’t have. The most respectful thing you can do is accept the boundaries-and honor them.

Being a gentleman isn’t about chivalry. It’s about recognizing someone’s humanity-even when society tells you not to.